Everyone can improve consent. Please try to understand these words about consent before continuing.
Physically touching someone like the content described here, or discussing this content, is healthy when all of those involved consent to such actions. Consent is an independent choice. Giving consent to any particular person is one path, one option, among many, that anyone would have to find what they need in any kind of healthy relationship with those in their community, whether it's a partnership, or with the usual delivery person.
Expressing consenting to any of this would occur in a healthy way by asking then discussing what each person wants because a lack of consent is not declared unsolicited enough, whether it's a conversation or interview to change the direction of, or intercourse. Those who have their consent violated are the only people that get to determine from their heart that's what happened. One's ability to determine how they feel about something and honestly express that with confidence and coherence; their capacity, doesn't stop developing. Changes in one's energy level, diet, stress, their relative sense of autonomy and power, their sense of how someone may take certain answers, their age, mental health, past trauma, or recent events that resonate in their consciousness, may affect their capacity. With potentially sexualized content or energy, capacity is further pressured.
Before these changes take effect, consent may be given, but everyone needs the ability to determine when and how they need to revoke their consent in any circumstance of this touching, at any time, and respect of this is healthy. Sexualized content can be so powerful in creating significant bias of a sense of control, a sense of superiority, and detecting and processing sights, sounds, smells, and touches, that sometimes not renegotiating for more during such excitement is advised. Do what can be done with the capacity available before the thought of sex excites.
It is not healthy for someone to feel like they need any energy about what is described from here from a particular person, no matter what their emotional or spiritual situation. Putting someone into a situation where they need to compromise their comfort or health to avoid giving consent would not make an independent choice. Asking the same question repeatedly and consecutively to someone who needs to be in a certain place would not make an independent choice. Offering remuneration that would maintain someone's health for their approval of their body being touched, when there is no other practical way for them to be fully paid for what they need at a certain place and time, would not make an independent choice.
Consent is given with some level of excitement. One may ask what their buddy would rather be doing in that time, if they're sure, and why they're sure. If they don't know why, they may need time, they may need options, or they may need to just leave. It's hard to know one's truth sometimes, even with a "sure". A lack of enthusiasm may be conveyed by many suttle nonverbal actions even though their words create a different impression. If weary there's no consent, stop, ask, clarify. They need their autonomy, power, freedom, curiousity, and creativity. Capacity would probably be stronger and much more prone to releasing an exciting approval with open ended questions that welcome conditions, not yes or no questions.
Giving consent is done with an appropriate knowledge base. This always affects capacity. Knowing someone carries relevant communicable vectors or diseases, is recovering from a contagious illness, is in, or has been, in a relationship that may conflict with present interests, is in any condition that would produce managable or unmanageable certain odors, and can't smell their scent (these senses can be very different from person to person), or will probably form an erection, would all be healthy. Trust in intent and judgement is made by this communication when it's specific and relevant. There may also be facts that would be relevant but not mutually valued or thought of, so asking about that would also help. What do they do to prevent getting any communicable disease? Is the area safe for bare feet? The kids across the street? Is the area inhabited by ticks, chiggers, fleas, lice, or bedbugs? Should they put all that weight on there and hope it doesn't break? Will their hearing aids fall out? Are they muscle pain or cramp suseptible in a certain position? What does this mean for any future relationships with anyone, including themselves? What variables of their capacity may change during the activity? The POP-to-POP activity would be healthy by knowing that unpredictable thoughts, visions, and sounds may become apparent, or revisited, to someone, by the stimulus of certain words given in that manner by a particular person, beyond immediate control. Over time, repeating questions may help because people can grow into completely different people over a matter of months, if not change decisively over minutes. It's important to know what messages are understood from the following content to someone who has been informed of it and wants to know more about it. Know what messages they got from the content in their own words. Ask questions that may provoke specific examples that demonstrate a mutual understanding of the concepts. And welcome questions.
Consent would be given by a mutually understood and definitive answer. Knowing what the boundaries are of aspired actions, from everyone involved, with prior notice by a different medium, would be a healthy thing for everyone involved to understand before such aspirations may come true. In the POP-to-POP activity, even after boundaries may be described, one may not feel obliged to give any answer to any question. "I'd like to try this" may not be interpreted by both who hear such words as "I would spend 10 minutes on the palm writing thing but I don't need kisses, any part of your body against my neck, or a palpable penis during it". Certain tones and nonverbal communication outside of standardized common languages, like ASL, may not be mutually understood. A pull of certain muscles felt against two bodies may mean someone is really enjoying something, or someone is really not enjoying something, but doesn't know if giving some stop command would be more uncomfortable. Someone's English may not be somebody else's English. Someone's excited tone may not be someone else's excited tone. Phrases like "maybe later" or "not now", may not be mutually understood, as it may mean, "maybe in a decade", or "give me 5 minutes". "That's hot" may not mean whoever said this as an answer would, in their heart, like try what "That" is with a particular person. Physiological responses, like blood flushes or erections do not indicate consent. Such arousal may indicate the opposite. The way to get to the descriptions is this, not the following big word. One given a question may repeat the question in their own words, or include their understanding of the question with describing their position on it. One given an answer may repeat what they got in their own words.
When one violates consent, they need to stop. They may need to step back without suggesting judgement to process what happened. Many of these are not intentional. They should express they made a mistake. They may try to know what was unacceptable, in a tone that does not suggest a blame. They may try to know what they can do to repair or alleviate the situation and do it. If they can't, they should probably explain.
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